What's the sense of having your own law firm and a blog if you don't get to use it to tell your loving spouse Happy Anniversary on it, and share a few funny wedding stories. So, first Happy Anniversary Cheri and thanks for 26 of the best years of my life and for helping make my dreams of being a voice for the voiceless come true over and over again.
Now, as promised some funny wedding disasters stories. Been a part of weddings as the groom once, best man twice, groomsman several more, and honored family both actual and in our hearts many more times. And the things that can go right are limitless. Seen some amazing moments of joy & beauty.
And Hollywood does get it right about some of the drama too. Two where there was a bunch of drama about one of the couple’s parents coming or not. Had that one go both ways, and had to be part of the circle of love surrounding one where the parent didn’t show up.
Been a part of one where the family of the one was beyond tiny as all of the known member had died. Only to have us as adopted family surrounding them with joy and love. Then a miracle happening a bit later as a gift from the other spouse led to a huge, extended birth family being found.
Been a part of several where the two had long before become spouses and families but the law had to catch up, including joining Cheri as part of the team welcoming the first same gender couples to be married in Lucas County on the day Obergefell came down from SCOTUS. And not long after, getting to meet Jim.
But some of the most fun have been when things didn’t go quite as planned. One where the groomsmen came from around the country, meeting and gathering to get our tuxes the night before, to discover none were the same of three possible styles. Going to the rental store as the police were leading a young man away who had trashed the store because they messed up his prom tux.
I had one of those rare moments where you have the right words come to you as needed as I explained how Bride & Groom, and many of the attendants, were getting their law degrees that week to the manager and the shattered glass table was just a preview of the carnage they would cause if this didn’t get fixed.
And the next day, just minutes before the ceremony, that manger running new tuxes up to me at the last minute, taking the wrong ones away, only to discover that my best man tux with a tie and vest, had a children’s tie that with some creating tying by a groomsman and bridesmaid just managed to be make it under the vest so none was the wiser.
And I almost forgot the Bride whose joke almost took out her groom. The night before at the rehearsal dinner, the Mother of the Bride retold the beloved, family story of her, pre ceremony, having a huge, red punch disaster with the wedding dress, and the save of a family heirloom dress fitting just fine.
My friend’s ceremony was intricately planned down to a list of people carried by me, The Best Man, of whom he was to dance with at the reception. It was at the bride’s family farm house in very small town Ohio.
Just sixty seconds before the big event was to kick off, with the wedding party joining up outside the front of the house and walking together to the back where the ceremony was, several bridesmaids came to tell the groom that disaster had once again hit the family and the bride’s beautiful dress was ruined by a spill and we would need to stall while they ran to see if that old, family dress could be found and would fit.
To say the Groom, who liked to plan out his every detail of life, none of which really worked out the way they were planned, was about to stroke out was an understatement.
But I very calmly reminded him that his bride was the fun loving, free spirit, who freed that from inside him too and that any second she would pop out of the house laughing, with a very much still intact dress. As she did, whispering to the Groom that the only liquids allowed near her before the ceremony were all very much clear.
Of course, the best were the ones we knew about or later learned about from the big day 26 years ago today. And there were several. The day started with the now formally diagnosed ADHD groom realizing that he had indeed missed a to do list item, the scheduled haircut. But a family friend fixed that quickly in my hotel room.
Then, as the ceremony had started the minister, presiding over a politically active lawyer marrying a very connected minister, hence in what we called the Royal Wedding (two receptions, a choir, a harp, a Grammy winning musician playing the first reception), realizing she had forgotten a key element.
Friends of Cheri’s serving overseas as missionaries had arranged for a traditional Lithuanian wedding stole to be knit for us. Later in the ceremony, our minister would tell of the tradition, and wrap it around our arms joining us together symbolically and letting them be a part of the event from afar.
However she forgot it in the car and somehow during the ceremony her husband ran out to the car and got all of the stoles in there (clergy wear various stoles with formal robes and all) and managing to get the right one, with all of them displayed on his arms at the back of the church, delivered with none of us the wiser.
Then there was the couple, we had read selected passages from Song of Solomon. For those who don’t know is very beautiful, and racy if you know what the metaphors are about, love poetry in wait for it, the Old Testament of the Bible. They did an amazing job reading the voices of the two lovers. And we suspected, and later confirmed, it resulted a PG to PG-13 expression of their love right after their performance, in another part of the church building.
But the best was the rings problem. The Maid of Honor brought them to the church as planned and dutifully stored them in the parlor of the very large, not our church as it was too small to have Cheri’s congregation and our friends and family, that served as the Bride and Bridesmaids’ green room.
Just minutes before the exchange in the ceremony, too short a time for even a sprinter to run there and back to a now locked room, the Best Man, leaned across the large aisle to break the news to the Groom sitting with the Bride and her attendants that “Bubba, I ain’t got the rings”.
The Best Man, having informed the couple, who, thanks to a professional contingency thinker Groom, actually had an emergency backup plan that wasn’t given to anyone else, sprung into action. I'm glad I didn't share, as the video is awesome, with my wife's Aunt catching it all. But yes, your lawyer is always thinking OK, but what if X happens, how do I fix this. As I say to many of you when you hire me, let me do the worrying. You pay me to take that on and prevent as much as I can.
After a very quiet, but very large laugh was shared by the groomsmen (again you can see it on the video as the laugher spreads), the three married ones dutifully raced to work their rings off, and the first two were handed to us for the ring exchange.
Not long after, they then swapped their rings for ours at the receiving line at reception one at the church, with few the wiser. Then again having your Grammy Award winning Brother in Law and his very talented later toured and recorded an album of his own Son playing was a good distraction.
I’ve gotten a chance to share those stories with several friends and family as the stress of the coming day built. To give them a needed laugh, and as the intro to my best wisdom.
The wedding is all about the couple. So the only things truly needed are the couple, the officiant to make it legal and/or spiritual, and that license thing. The rest is truly icing on the cake. And some of my favorite memories are the moments that, well, the wheels fell off.
Thank you to everyone who pulled off the Royal Wedding 26 years ago and celebrated the start of this fun journey and to my Beloved for helping us live many of our dreams together, even if like the rings and stole it hasn’t always been as planned.
For our team, nothing beats coming home to a four legged loved one who greets you at the door with a wagging tail. National Dog Day was created to celebrate our four legged best friends, whether they are the family pet, a service dog, law enforcement K-9 or whatever job they have. And also to bring awareness to the problem of stray dogs.
Every year over 3 Million dogs enter shelters and rescues around country according to the National Dog Day Foundation. It’s vital that we get our dogs spayed & neutered and so important to consider helping out these shelters and rescues around the US.
Soon, we will be getting new neighbors across Monroe Street soon with the Lucas County Canine Care and Control will be joining us on 13th Street in the coming year. And the plans for their new home look amazing. We’ll be over to drop off goodies for the dogs and the humans who care for Lucas County’s lost and stray dogs and cats when they get moved in. You can help them out by going to their website and checking out the donate and volunteer pages: https://lucascountydogs.com/donate/ https://lucascountydogs.com/volunteer/
In meantime as we get ready so celebrate our 20th year helping out our clients early next year, we wanted to take a minute to remember our four legged family members at the Law Offices of Kurt M. Young, LLC, both those who have left us and those still with us today.
First, we’ll start with some of the ones we’ve had to hold while the crossed the rainbow bridge, including Lisa’s beautiful pit mix, rescue Chico. Chico was a very good boy, who would come down and join mom from time to time and loved the attention he got from us and the great from his loving dog mom.
And Shadow. Shadow was Kurt’s dog sibling. Rescued by Kurt’s Mom in Shadows last six or so years of life, she would visit from time to time, redecorating Kurt’s office on at least one occasion where he had to run out for a workers’ compensation hearing.
But we’re also blessed with two living dogs who visit from time to time. Ellie is Kurt’s grand dog. And she is a working dog, An Emotional Support Animal (ESA). Kurt’s daughter Rebecca Adopted Ellie in 2020 from a shelter in Michigan, as the worst of the COVID-19 epidemic was hitting. Ellie got certified as an ESA and returned with Becca in the Fall to a college dorm where Becca was an Resident Assistant (RA). Ellie was named an honorary Office Assistant (OA) by the staff and students, as Becca was moving out of the dorm, Ellie got lots of hugs and thanks from students for getting them through the Pandemic.
About four years ago, after their lost dog died, wife Cheri said she was not ready to have another dog, possibly forever. But on a Monday in October 2022, Cheri announced to Kurt and their son she had changed her mind and with Becca’s help she had found a dog to help rescue. Kurt & Cheri met Lucy Tuesday night and she joined the family two days later. She is a mix of a Pug and Shih Tzu called a Pug-Zu. She’s named after Kurt’s distant cousin, and entertainment icon Lucille Ball and is a frequent visitor to the office, although she’s in a bit of trouble since the last time she visited, she stole Kurt’s Grumpy Cat plush and has made it her favorite toy.
Do not fear cat lovers, there is a National Cat day, and Russ Gerney has us covered for that one. But for now, here’s the really good Boys & Girls who make our lives better. If you’ve got a good picture or story about your dog, please share.
By the 1930s, the United States was the only modern industrial country to without any national system of social security: though a handful of states had poorly. For most American workers, retirement during old age was not a realistic option.
Seeing that World War II was coming and that they were going to need a new vehicle to get around on muddy, off road battlefields, in July 1940, Karl Probst, a freelance auto designer in Detroit submitted the BRC or Bantam Reconnaissance Car, which could be built with mostly off the shelf parts. The Army loved the design, but didn’t think the company who originally pitched the idea could handle production. So they asked Toledo’s Willys Overland and the Ford Motor Company to work on the design.